Mutterings Of A Mindless Mommy

It has been four days since I’ve updated and I feel so out of the loop.  I really need to get into the habit of blogging daily, it is so therapuetic for me.  I thought I would just do a quick update on the mindless mommy family - that is me, the hubby, and the kids.

Alexander is doing really well with play therapy.  The therapist we see is wonderful and Alexander trusts her which is so important.  In session yesterday she messed with layout of some of his toys and he said “Hey, put that back.”  So she used that as a learning point.  She suggested that perhaps when he plays with his friends that if he said something like that it might hurt their feelings so instead he might say something like “Can you please put that back?”  Little things like that can make a huge difference in his peer interaction.  She said he’s almost ready for a social skills group which is good because his group starts up on 6/7.  Some may find it odd that a child isn’t ready for a social skills group that is made up of peers with social deficits but the way the therapist explained it to me is that he is so set in his ways and so absolutely rigid that he wouldn’t be open to learning while in the group.  While he’s still very rigid he’s been gently challenged continuously over the past month or so and is a bit more receptive to the challenges even though he still doesn’t appreciate them.

Ava is doing fantastic.  Her language skills are blossoming and as a result we are seeing less meltdowns on a daily basis.  I asked her not to stand on a box the other day and she looked at me and said “why?”.  My jaw dropped - did my little girl just ask me WHY?  I was reading on a parenting message board where other parents of children her age where tired of the ‘why’ question and here I was just hoping to hear it - and I heard it!  Of course when I explained why she just looked puzzled but she asked it!  I haven’t heard it since but I am certain I will hear it again.  She is out of school for the summer and we are working on increasing her receptive language skills to get them on par with her expressive.  She starts swimming lessons next week as well - yay for Grandma taking both kids to semi-private lessons - the class will only be Ava and Alex.

Me - I am alive and in a much more productive state of mind.  I have started individual counseling to help me manage my stress levels.  I thought I was doing an OK job but evidently I haven’t.  I have a grand plan this summer - take some time for myself.  Yes, you heard it, I’m going to do some special things just for me!! 

 Hubby - He’s had an epiphany of sorts and I think our relationship has rounded the corner on to more positive ground.  We have a long road ahead of us but now I believe that he is committed to putting the time into our relationship that it deserves.

So there it is - my little update.